Scientology likes to portray itself as family friendly. This is never really true in scientology — the organization ALWAYS takes precedence over the individual or family. Always. Scientology tries to tell the world that it is the great protector and builder of family relationships. Just look at these excerpts from scientology.org:
But let’s just focus on how this works out for scientology staff, SO Members or declared SP’s. Scientology is decidedly NOT family friendly and Father’s Day is simply another “reason” to try to get suckers to visit the org so the regges can try to get their money.
You can be sure, NO staff member is being given a day off because it’s “Father’s Day” — they’re not even allowed to sleep in. There is a planet to clear. The org has to be built to St Hill Size. No time for messing around with “wog” excuses to go “off-purpose.”
As for Sea Org members, they’re not even allowed to have children. If they do and their children are in the SO (like mine) they don’t have a clue it is even Father’s Day today. It’s just not a “thing” at all. And if you tried to ask for an hour to spend with your children or father, you would be routed to ethics for having “other fish to fry.”
And for all the SPs out there, it goes to another level. If your scientology child tried to contact you for Fathers Day they would be expelled from scientology for committing the High Crime of contacting a declared SP.
Yet here is how they try to present themselves to the world (stock shot photos and all):
Of course, they will use it as an excuse for a “special briefing” — which is scientology euphemism for fundraising event.
Hey scientology, how about this for a gesture on Father’s Day?
For just ONE day, grant an amnesty and let every father disconnected from a son or daughter, and every son or daughter disconnected from their father communicate with one another?
Nah, we know that’s never going to happen – it would violate your “firmly held religious beliefs”…
It seems the only way to solve the dilemma is to force change from without.
So to all the dads and kids out there who suffer from the cruelty of scientology disconnection today, use it as a motivation to redouble your determination to bring the abuses of disconnection to an end.
And to all the dads and children out there who are able to celebrate Father’s Day – cherish it. Don’t take that bond between you for granted. You may never know how important it is until it’s gone.
Scientology kids uniformly have a misunderstood on “father”, as they’ve never seen one in action — except maybe an absent one, required by the scientology lifestyle.
I wasn’t in the Scientology cult but was a child victim of a one woman run cult. Because my dad didn’t agree with what was happening to my family he was ostracized. He was ganged up on and told he was the devil. This cult woman basically hijacked my mom’s kids as her own. She slimed her way into our family. When my dad was dying of cancer his last wish was to see his sons. By then my mom, sisters and I left the cult. My brothers refused to see my dad. They slammed their front doors in our faces. These cults their main goal is to entrap people and hijack the families. Its horrible the damage that is done.
happy mothers day mike! (in our house we get all holidays mixed up.)
hope you had a deep one.
bless all of you crusaders at bottom of DeepArcher.
your work is not in vain.
love,
xanther
Made it out of Scientology with my family intact. Scientology failed to separate us, even though many of us are declared Suppressive Persons. Everyone in my family refused to disconnect. F* you, Scientology. We are prospering and have continued growing our family with lots of grandchildren who will never be Scientologists. Success is the best revenge!!!
So happy you all got out, What Wall. And you’re right to stick together and say F you to them for trying to split you up. Welcome to the new world!
All these events they have are so creepy. It’s like a stranger offering your kid candy …trying to lure kids in . Kidnap them .
If I ever caught a Scientologist talking to an unsuspecting kid trying to lure one into their disgusting group I’d have to punch em in the face.
Just count how many times the poster boy Tom Cruise got divorced. Smart ladies!
Just count how many times the poster boy Tom Cruise got divorced. Smart little ladies!
Father forgive them for they know not what they do, but in David Miscavige’s case, please make an exception.
Well said.
Amen
Amnesty.
The last time I heard of one being issued was mid 1970.
What’s up with that?
Scientology is like a spider that dangles PR buttons like “we love families”, “we love children”, etc as a way to lure in more pry. It’s all a pretense. The truth is Scientology could give a rats ass about you, your family or your kids. It wants your labor, your money and any resource it can suck out. When a person no longer represents that, they are deemed useless. Something to be bulldozed over if it even looks like it might impede its thirst for money. No Sea Org member would ever use the word “love”. I worked there for 27 years and never heard it used between staff members. The person would be considered suspect, theety wheety, nambee pambee, weak, or worse.
Wow….
There are also all the accounts of Scientology actively working to split up couples and even encouraging divorce when one of them is not fully on board; plus those of more passive efforts like the way Scientology plays divide-and-conquer by getting one partner to agree to donate money in the absence of the other, when the other might likely disagree, which also often contributes to break-ups.
No wonder there are so many divorces in Scientology. It’s one of those things regarding which it would be really interesting to have hard data and even something like an actual sociological study; the anecdotal reports suggest they may even have higher rates of failed marriages than almost any other group.
This happened to me and my fiancé. I wasn’t a Scientologist, did some courses, but it wasn’t for me, I had an open mind, accepting them, and what my fiancé was into. But somehow they got to him, so he broke up with me, left me and moved out within 2 days. Devastating and such a heartbreak.
I would love to get my hands on that mythical survey…
Probably as real as the Japanese submarine LRH sank off Oregon!
Happy Father’s Day to all, especially you, Mike ☮
Scn in their propaganda says, “Surveys have found that after participating in Scientology services, individuals are more likely to marry or stay married.” Really? By my count, and many others have also noticed this, Scn has a much higher divorce rate than in the Non Scn community. This is 1984 Double Speak. When they say it is one way, it is quite the opposite way in reality.
Happy Father’s Day Mike. And to all other Father’s on this blog.
LRH was a twisted ,depraved person . Probably because he was a narcissistic sociopath who never experienced one moment of empathy. Sadly ,he stumbled onto the perfect formula for preventing others to form normal familial bonds. We all have an innate longing to bond with others as partners and as a group,to be a part of a social hierarchy. It is genetically hard coded in our species and something that evolved long long ago.
LRH used that need for his own personal gain by placing himself as source . His “ philosophy “ brutally inflicted emotional pain as punishment for anyone who stepped outside of his self defined social hierarchy . His use of “ Knowledge Reports”not only kept him informed of others actions or thoughts. It also planted seeds of mistrust between every member of their social group. No relationship can tolerate a lack of trust. Especially one in which physical or mental punishment is inflicted when the most basic bonds of trust are repeatedly broken.
It takes a person of great inner strength and stamina to “wake up” and walk away from the only social group they have ever known . For a person whose entire life has been been a series of one betrayal after another; starting over and forging new bonds is one of the most courageous acts I can imagine.
For Mike and others who have trod that once lonely path to a new and happy destiny , YOU are the best examples of conquering the frailties of human existence. Serving as role models to us all.
HAPPY FATHERS DAY !
A very accurate description of the truth behind Scientology’s smarmy PR lies.
Every Scientologist knows that those are lies yet they look the other way.
At our org it would have been “Come on course to celebrate Father’s Day”.
At least, Mike, your wonderful wife and kids will spoil you today and celebrate in the true spirit of Father’s Day.
The only father in Scientology is L. Ron Hubbard and his draconian policies are observed every day.
Hi Mike!
I’m hoping Karen & I can make it to down to Clearwater in the foreseeable future. Meeting you was great! Coming down to see you would be fantastic!
A very HAPPY FATHER DAYS, Mike.
Hello Mike,
I hope you won’t mind if I show you a few minor typos in today’s blog.
Please delete this post. Here they are:
“This is never really rue in scientology”
“ANd iuf you tried to ask”
“Of course, they will use it as an excuse to for a”
Thank you. Fixed.
COS seems to look at it this way:
You will have MANY FATHERS…..each new “meat body” will bring another father into your life so why be close to any one father?
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY ………to those who are suffering the indignity of disconnection…forgive them they know not what they do…..yet. One day they may realize what they’ve given up/tossed aside/lost. That day of reckoning is coming…..
The day of reckoning is coming and on that day, “joy” will be the operative word. Remember Travolta talking about how “joy” is the operative word in his goofy interview in that great film, “Going Clear: scamatology and the Prison of Belief”?
It’s worth considering how that day will arrive. As the monster ages, what will his mental state be like? Surely, he will never specify anyone to inherit the scam. If any one individual ever enters his mind as a likely successor, that person will go to the Hole. They will go directly to the Hole. They will never pass “Go” and if they ever collect $200, they will be forced to “donate” it to the monster or they will have to go to the Hole while they are on their way to the Hole. There just ain’t enuff Holes in that asshole’s world.
So, as he sits all along in his filthy empire, his mind will start to escape him as he ages. He may finally get some kind of terminal disease associate with dementia or he will just go nuts and order everyone to murder everyone else until there is no one left.
I doubt he will ever summon up the nerve to make some kind of bold move to escape. The rational thing to do would be to hide all his money in Swiss banks or banks in the Caymen Islands. But his mind will almost certainly break down before he can begin to plan for such an event.
I would guess that he will die much like Joseph Stalin died. When Stalin died, everyone was far too frightened to enter his room when they knocked and there was no answer. I believe it took several weeks before the stench of his decaying body became so overpowering that someone finally entered his room to find him dead.
Many people were made very happy on that day.
The father of the monster – Ron – would have a joyous day if that day ever ocurred on Father’s Day.
Dang! I meant to write “all alone” – not “all along”
Every time I watch Going Clear and see that ridiculous Travolta interview I think: You can say anything you want, i.e., the operative words in my religion are “World Peace,” saying it doesn’t make it true. Just because you state that your cult, excuse me, religion, is about joy, doesn’t mean it’s true. Anyone can say anything they like – doesn’t make it so, though.
Meryl Weiner said, “Anyone can say anything they like – doesn’t make it so, though.
Yes Meryl. Especially when it is one of the biggest lies ever told.
When this scam is ever run out of business, they will always still be able to make money by publishing a book on which they are most expert,
“How to Become an Expert at Lying”
I’d love to see how much they’d try to charge for that book:-)
Actually, I don’t think Ron would feel Joyous. Because Ron is Out. From his writings and videos, it appears that he has learned to feel again, and presumably knows that he still loves his son – the one he remembers – the one buried deep inside the psychopath in charge of Scientology today. There is no chance of reconciliation, but I persist in thinking that any father not trapped Inside (and still brainwashed) would welcome the chance and grieve as it never happens.
So sad that Father’s Day has been stolen from you with your COS brainwashed kids and so many others Mike. I hope you have a really lovely day today. Your family are so blessed to have such an honorable, courageous, stand up guy fighting for truth and justice. You are an awesome role model.
Great post, Mike.
Happy Father’s day, Mike. I send continued prayers that your relationship with your kids will be restored.
“…the old stalwart of restimulating mutual out-rudiments….” This is the way a scientologist views the pain and suffering of many of us who miss our family members. “out-rudiments” and when many of us talk about it, it gets even further minimized into “mutual out-rudiments.” That’s the warm and fuzzy and compassionate heart of a scientologist when it comes to families torn apart.
Happy Father’s Day to all of you wonderful fathers out there. Your children I hope count their blessings. Not everyone gets a wonderful father.
If the co$ really gave a shit about the importance of family, let them practice what they preach. Let Sammy call his father today.
Mary, your point is quite insightful.
Scientology replaces visceral emotions with ” the emotional tone scale ” and simple communication with ” the comm formula “…and corrupts and erodes a person’s innate empathy and kindness with its nonconsensual hypnotic and indoctrination routines. The practices and beliefs of scientology are toxic, and when rabidly and dogmatically followed, produce cold, robotic, jargon-spouting fanatics who spout the kind of shit you commented on. Far from being ” senior to ” the rest of us, they are confused, emotionally dead, spiritually lost folks…who don’t recognize their own degradation and state of enslavement.
Full disclosure: I was once one of those people.
Truly leaving scientology behind involves recognizing and rectifying/reversing its destructive psychological effects, in my opinion, and that includes cleansing one’s mind of the cult jargon and the assumptions that it is built on. To me, it’s the language of disassociation, delusion, and enslavement.
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That quote above is straight out of Foolproof’s comment yesterday. Heartless
Mary, as Mark said, your statement is so insightful. I read it earlier today and have been thinking about it all day.
When I read Terra’s article yesterday, it brought tears to my eyes as, I too, have those conversations in my mind, that are from the heart. And then later I read FOOLproof’s response. What an idiot.
The fact that FOOLProof can so misinterpret the whole point of Terra’s article only reconfirms to me how glad I am to be divorced of the cult and the BS it lives by.
I think of you often and your family. And I appreciate all of your comments.
How predictably sad and true. 😢 Happy Father’s Day Mike and to all in the ex-co$ community.
Happy Father’s Day, Mike!
I’m soooooo happy you’re out and have those lovely kids to frolic with.
Cheers to you and all you do!
<3 <3
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and… my heartfelt condolences for you and all those suffering from the vile disconnection policy.
Scamology is sending out some type of communication = They are lying.
Very touching! So true! I always felt so bad about holidays like this. “Other fish to fry” is anything that doesn’t get the gross income up for that hour, that day, that week. Family does NOT matter except as an excuse to take a photo to try and drag more people in to PAY! So sad but karma is karma and what goes around comes around. It makes me sad that so many won’t see their families today. but we will.
I am sorry Mike days like this must hurt. I know you love your boys that you have now. But I know you would love to hear from your older son too. Your daughter well… she is under total control so we can hope she will see the light someday! Have a great day!
The biggest Father’s day present for disconnect fathers all over the world:Implode harder!
The harm this cult inflicts in families is untenable. How many broken families lie in the wake of the cults forward momentum? Just look at the high profile ones and forget the rest- how many long term non-divorced Scientology couples and intact families are there really?? This alone should set some of the members to thinking about how well the “tech” works. But for some reason it doesn’t. If Hubbard was unable to hold a family together how in the world could someone follow his dictates on family?
The disconnection policy and fair game alone are reprehensible, but then the cult compounds the disgust of us all by pitting children against parents and parents against children. And in a high profile, very loud manner. Honestly, this is one of the things that turned me into an active anti-Scientologist- the disgust of a group using children publicly to disparage parents openly and their unabashed pulling kids into the middle of adult issues. They have no regard to the anguish this will cause on both sides- they just want to win some idiotic pissing game like a grade school bully.
It needs to end. This cult needs to end. People need their kids back, kids need their parents back.
The following is a generalization and won’t be true in every case:
While the ex-Scn parents, knowing the truth about the cult, long with every fiber of their being for the sons and daughters who disconnected from them. these same sons and daughters carry on, motherless or fatherless, in the smug certainty that they are 100% right not to be in communication with the DBs and SPs they believe their parents to be. Oh, they’re so very sure that they’re right….
One day they will find out how utterly, how completely, how 100% wrong they are, and were.
One day they will understand the enormous pain they inflicted on undeserving people who loved them enough to tell them the truth, and who loved and respected themselves not to lie.
One day these “kids” will understand the strength, courage, understanding and compassion of the people who loved them despite being shut out of their lives forever.
One day they will be 21st century versions of Shakespeare’s Lady Macbeth,…”Will all Neptune’s great ocean wash this blood from mine hands?” Oh, sure, they didn’t murder anyone, unwittingly. What they did was worse; they let the cult murder the love that was between them and their parents.
In brief, at some point in the future they will know the truth, understand the enormity of their crime and be torn up with shame, guilt and frantic regret. And they’ll want nothing more than to reach out to their parents, to go on their knees to these parents and beg forgiveness, understanding – anything, to make their pain go away, the pain of living with the knowledge of the pain they caused, year after year, to innocent people.
Yes, they’ll be frantic to reach out. And by that time, it may be too late.
Its also conceivable to me that many ex=Scn disconnected-from parents have figured this out already, and will have left messages for their children and grandchildren when they’re time comes – messages out of love and understanding of what their kids are going to suffer if they learn the truth after the parent has died.
Well, its not going to help. It will help the parents writing their deathbed notes to their kids. But its not going to help their kids. Its not going to make their guilt and their pain go away. If its too late, those kids are going to live out their lives with that pain and guilt even though they know that their parents forgave them. Because their problem is that they won’t be able to forgive themselves.
They’ll review all the signs and signals they ignored over the years about what they’re parents were trying to tell them. They’re going to remember all the opportunities they had to reach out, while their parents were alive. They’re going to recall all the impulses of compassion and love they felt that made them want to reach out – impulses they stifled.
They’re going to remember all of this and its going to be torture for them, a torture that they live with, that becomes part of them and just something that’s always there and causes them pain, until they die too.
Its going to be really bad for these kids, one day. Very rough.
I almost feel sorry for them. Almost.
“If Hubbard was unable to hold a family together how in the world could someone follow his dictates on family?”
Hubbard made no attempt to hold his own family (ies) together. He did care about PR photo shoots, but holding a family together was simply not on his “to do” list.